End of an era

[lordshipmayhem]

As Kevin posted, my father has passed from this veil of tears.

It happened quietly at 4:30, with loving wife Margaret, the palliative care nurse and his minister Reverend Bill present. We knew it was going to be soon; on Friday the nurse had "the chat" with Margaret, advising her that he'd be lucky to survive the week.

It still hurts, though. He was the best dad that anyone could wish for. Only the good die young: he was a mere 79 years old.

Dammit, I hate cancer. Hate it with a driving passion. He should have had another decade, but it was not to be.

Kathy & JP should be there any minute now - they'd hoped to get there before the end, and missed by a mere matter of a couple of hours. I'll head over first thing in the morning.

Comments

[csi-tokyo3.livejournal.com]

My great condolences, Mayhem. :(

[lordshipmayhem.livejournal.com]

Thanks, I appreciate it.

Stay safe.

[hysteriachan.livejournal.com]

Gary, we're so sorry. :( Kevin just let us know. You and the family are in our thoughts.

[lordshipmayhem.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I do appreciate all the notes of condolence.

Stay safe. [hugs]

[ginny-t.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I'm very sorry. :-(

[lordshipmayhem.livejournal.com]

Thanks. In all this gloom, it's good to hear from friends.

Stay safe.

[shivanesti.livejournal.com]

Condolences, Gary. Be well.

[lordshipmayhem.livejournal.com]

I shall. The family is beginning the process of rallying round, so we'll be fine.

Stay well, old friend.

[dejana.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm so sorry. Thinking of you all.

[lordshipmayhem.livejournal.com]

Thanks. The family is beginning to gather. Kathy & JP are in Oshawa right now, I'm there by 10:30 tomorrow.

Stay safe. [hugs]

[dejana.livejournal.com]

You too. *hugs*

[musicgeekstress.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear Gary. Jason and I both send our condolences. I pray that your father is finally at peace. So sorry Gary.

[lordshipmayhem.livejournal.com]

Knowing Dad, he's probably happy as a clam catching up the tax returns for the Choir Invisible.

Thanks for your kind remarks. Stay safe.

[seangaffney.livejournal.com]

My condolences to you and your family, Gary.

[lordshipmayhem.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Sean.

We're coping. Margaret, his wife (which I guess makes her step-mom, although I still think of her as "Dad's love"), is coping as well as she can.

Stay safe.

[kawaii-miss-s.livejournal.com]

I don't even know what to say Gary. I'm so sorry your family had to go through this. I am sure your father is feeling relieved to be free of it all.
I too hate cancer with a passion, let's hope it doesn't claim anyone more of our loved ones.

[lordshipmayhem.livejournal.com]

Thanks, I'm sure he's free of pain - and preparing income tax returns for the angels!!

[kats-kradle.livejournal.com]

Mark and I send our condolances. Knowing it's coming does not really ease the pain *hugs*

[lordshipmayhem.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Kats. He at least wasn't in much pain before the end, actually was awake and aware and alert until about an hour before he died. He was advising his minister about his taxes ("Be sure you get Form # such-and-such filled out and submitted before November 30, otherwise they'll deduct too much tax from you!")

[haruhiko.livejournal.com]

Sorry about this. Take care of yourself and my condolences to you and the rest of the family.

[lordshipmayhem.livejournal.com]

Thanks, mate. I appreciate being in your thoughts.

[yumelady.livejournal.com]

I come back to LJ to this? So depressing. Condolences. You might have one (big) loss, but you still have many blessings (friends and families) to help you and care for you during this difficult time. Don't forget we are here for each other. I send you happy thoughts. And no knowing it's coming doesn't get any easier. My grandmother was 98 and I know my aunt and mother were upset at her passing...mortality never gets easier........happy thoughts happy thoughts! Must think happier thoughts to send to you. ^_^